Trying to start a family can be stressful—especially if you’re having trouble conceiving. You may find yourself feeling depressed, anxious, or isolated. It’s important to remember that you’re not alone—many experience these feelings during their fertility journey. The good news is, there are ways to help manage these negative feelings.
Understand what's bothering you
Be aware of your mood throughout the day, and take notes when you feel stressed. Write down how you’re feeling and what may have caused it. Once you get a clearer picture of what your triggers are, you can come up with a plan for reducing them.
Reach out to friends and family
You don’t have to suffer alone. Talk about your feelings with people who are close to you, and listen to their perspective. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to people you know, joining a fertility support group is also an option.
Get some exercise
Exercise is a great way to improve your state of mind. When you’re physically active your body produces endorphins, which are natural mood enhancers. Something as simple as a daily walk can make a big difference in how you feel.
Get plenty of sleep
Stress can make it difficult to sleep, and sleep is important for your health and well-being. Try to get at least seven or eight hours per night. Reduce or eliminate caffeine, keep electronics out of the bedroom, and go to bed at the same time every night.
Many people turn to alternative therapies such as acupuncture for a range of health issues, including infertility, stress, and depression. An acupuncturist inserts ultra-thin, sterile needles into specific acupuncture points, and this can help regulate certain body functions. For some people, acupuncture is an effective way to manage stress and anxiety, even when other methods have failed.
Meditation is another popular and effective way to reduce stress. Through habitual practice, it can help you focus your mind on positive thoughts, increase awareness of your mental state, and develop concentration. Many people use the practice to improve their mood, sleep better, and even increase their pain tolerance.
If you can’t manage your stress on your own, it can help to talk to a psychologist or other licensed mental health professional. Remember—many people feel stressed, anxious, or depressed while trying to start a family. You don’t need to suffer alone.